Co Dělat, Když máte Pocit, Jako vzdát Na Lásku

Aktualizováno 10. Března 2020

Lékařsky Přezkoumána: Karen Devlin, LPC

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Itiscertainlyanunderstandablereaction.,Už jste si myslel, že je čas, aby to bylo jedno.Ale já vím, že jsi se na tebe vykašlal, nebo jsi zjistil, že jsi to udělal sám.Pak už jste v pohodě.Je to možné?

Atthispoint, youmaythrowupyourhandsandshout“to je, Igiveuponlove!“, Ale jsoujenesebevzduchysami.Youmaywanttotakeabreakfromloveforalittlewhile,butyoudenyyourselfalifetimeofhappinessbyclosingthedooronlove.

BlamingYourself

Alotofpeopleblamethemselves Fortheirlovelivelivesgoingawry.Možná to jsem já,myslí si:.MaybeI ‚ mjustnotlovable.,MaybeI’msoannoying,ormyinterestsaresouncommon,thatIwillneverfindsomeonewhocanbetrulycompatiblewithme.Ale je to jen o malarkách.

Thereissomeoneoutthereforeachofusifonlywecankeepthefaith,bepatient,andbediligentinoursearchandnotcompromiseourvalues.Protože když přijmeš své závazky, tak se nikdy nebudeš bát, že by se to stalo.

Everyoneisvaluable,andeveryoneisworthyoflove.It’simportanttorememberthatbecauseifwebelievewearenotvaluable,thenwestartactinglikewearenotvaluable,andthenitbecomesaself-fullingprophecy.Whowantstospendtimedevelopingarelationshipwithacurmudgeon?,Thehappieryouarewithyourlifeandyourself,themorelikelysomeoneworthywillcomealongwhowantstosharethosehappyexperienceswithyou.

Youmaywanttomakealistofallofthethingsthataregoodaboutyourselfthatyoucouldalsooffertoanotherperson.Youcanalsomakealistofallofthevaluesyouarelookingforinapartner,attheveryleastasaremindernottocompromiseonthosevalues.Youmayalsowanttoconsiderseekingcounselingtohelpyouovercomepessimisticthinkingsothatyoucanbethebestpossibleversionofyourselfthatyoucanbe.,

vážně…StopLooking

Itmaysoundlikeacliché, butt ‚ sthetruth: youtrulydofindtruelovewhenyoustoplookingforit.Když jsi mě miloval,lidé tě měli rádi.Ifyouinvolveyourselfinanewhobby,takeanewclass,orimmerseyourselfinanewsocialcircle,youaretakingcareofyourself,tendingtoyourownneeds,andyouareshowingtheworldthatyoudon’tneedamatetofeelwhole.

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Ifamatecomesalongthat’sperfectforyou,thenthat’sgreat,butifnot,thenyou’reembracingthesinglelifeandshowingtheworldthatyou’redoingjustfineonyourown.,Andit’snotlikeyou’llbetryingtoproveanythingtoanyone-you’llhonestlybehavingfunwithnewpeopleandlearningnewthings.Soyoutrulyareoccupiedandfillingyourlifeupwithlovelythingssothatwhentherightpartnercomesalong,you’llhaveplentyofgoodthingstosharewiththem.

Somethingelseimportanttoremember Thingsoftendonotturnoutthewayweexpectthemto.Wemaydatesomeoneandhavetheromancefizzleout,onlyforthatpersontoturnintooneofthebestfriendswe’veeverhad.Nebo můžeme zjistit, že je to nejlepší, co jsme dělali.,

KillTheTimeline

Manyofussetgoalsforourselves,likewehavetobemarriedby25,haveallofourchildrenby30,andbesettledinourcareersbythetimewe’re35.Ale je to tak,že lidé dělají to, co je v životě a v životě, a že se jim to líbí.

Morewomenaresettinguptheircareersbeforetheysettledown,leadingtohavingtheirfirstchildrenwellintotheirthirtiesandevenintotheirforties.Andyoucangetmarriedwhenever.It’snotarace,andthingsaren’tliketheyusedtobe.,Societyhasbecomemoreacceptingofcouplesmarryingaftertheyhavechildren,andyourbosswillprobablyloveyoufordevotingmoreofyourchildbearingyearstodevelopinghisbusiness.

ale pozor, nepleťte se do toho.Rushingthingscanlandyouinarelationshipthatmayseem“goodenough“atfirstbutturnsouttobeanightmareintheend.Držet se něčeho dobrého, ne jen „dobrého“.“Itmaytakelongertoobtain,butyou’llbetentimeshappierandproudofyourselfforwaitingandfornotcompromisingyourvalues.Itsurebeatsrealizingfiveyearsfromnowthatyou’resaddledwithtwokidsanddependentonahusbandwhodoesn’tloveyouasmuchasyoumaylovehim.,

Thelastthingyouwanttodoishavetostaytogether “ forhekids.“Drž se někoho, kdo tě miluje.On je tam venku.

LearnToEnjoyTheRide

Onethingaboutsearchingforanewmateisthatit ‚ sneverawasteoftime.Na každémvšechnyvšechnyvšechnysbíratstoriestoturnintoanecdoteslateron.A kdo by neměl rád, kdyby byl v noci?Jistě, je to možná důvod, proč se (jakmánytimescanaguybringufismotherinonenight?), ale pokud je něco v pořádku, pak jsem měl všechno v pořádku.

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Onamoreseriousnote,ifwegooutwithsomeonenew,andtheyrejectus,thenwecanatleastgainexperienceandstrengthfromtheencounterthatwecanthenbringtoanothernewrelationship.Plus,youcancongratulateyourselfforbeingbraveenoughtotakethatfirststepingoingoutandtryingsomethingnew.Itcanbescaryandintimidatingtomeetnewpeople,butgettingyourselfoutthereishalfthebattle.- Co se děje?Už je čas.,

‚reNeverAlone

Youknowhowyou’refeelingrightnowlikethere’snooneouttherethat’srightforyou,andthereneverwillbe?Hádej, co-tvůj by měl být v noci, myslet na něco jiného.Maybeshejustgotjiltedbyyetanotherlover,že’sthinkingofwashingherhandsofthewholedatingbusiness.Ale když jsem to řekl, Tak se s vámi nikdy nesetkáme.

Heck, itdoesn ‚ tevenhavetobeyourfuturelove.Therearethousandsofpeople,atanygivenmoment,whoarecopingwithabreakupanddecidingwhetherornottogiveuploveforever.,Sogoahead,haveanotherhelping(orpint)ofyourfavoriteicecream,cryoveryourfavoriteromanticcomedy,throwbackanotherpintatthepub,dowhateveryouneedtodotofeelbetteratthemomentandrevelinthefactthatyouaremostdefinitelynotalone.

SecondThoughts

Thisisgoingtobesad,buthey,youneedtoknoweveryaspectofadecisionbeforeyoumakeit,andthisone’simportant.Můžeš se rozhodnout, když jsi mladý, tak jsi to udělal.To je ono.Budeš mít radost, a nemůžeš se nechat zmást jinak.Butthenthemonthsandyearsgobyand,beforeyouknowit,youmaybepastyourchild-bearingyearsandintoademographicthatfindsitmuchhardertomeetsomeonenew.,

Granted,therewillalwaysbethefailedrelationshiporthespousewhopassedawaythatmakesinglesavailableineverydemographic.Butitbecomesalothardertofindsomeonewhoisn’tmarried,settleddownwithchildren,orhavingdifficultylettinggoofthebaggagefrompastrelationshipssothatheorshecanmoveonwithsomeonenew.

Thisisnottosaythatyouhavetosettleforanyonewhocomesalongsimply,soyoudon’tendupoldandalone.,Butthisistosaythatbytakingyourselfoutofthedatingpoolforawhile,monthscanbecomeyearsfasterthanyouthink,andwhenyou’reolder,youmayfindyourselfgenuinelyregrettingthedecisionyoumadewhenyouwereyounger-andthenit’stoolatetodoanythingaboutit.

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Morethananything,givinguponlovecanjustleadtoyourbecominglonely,andwhyletallofyourexeswinthatbattle?Měli byste bojovat o to, abyste se dostali na úroveň, kterou jste si zasloužili.Statisticssaythatyouwillfindthatprinceeventually,evenifyouhavetokissafewmoretoadsfirst.,

Peopleneedpeople, andinavarietyofways.Mostofushavefriendsandfamilytoturnto,butwealsoneedtheemotionalconnectionthatcomeswithromanticloveaswell.Itmaynothappenrightawayasitdoesinthemovies,butit’ssomuchbetterwhenitdoesn’t.Becausethat’swhenyoufindtruequality.