Mitä Tehdä, Kun Tuntuu luopumassa Rakkaus

Päivitetty 10. Maaliskuuta 2020 mennessä

Lääketieteellisesti Tarkistetaan Seuraavasti: Karen Devlin, LPC

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Itiscertainlyanunderstandablereaction.,Yougothroughrelationshipafterrelationship,thinkingforsurethat,thistime,thisoneisTheOne.Butnope-youcatchhimcheatingonyou,oryourealizeyou’vefallenoutoflovewithher.Sinä olet kumparelaskija.Onko se mahdollista?

Atthispoint, youmaythrowyourhandsandshout ” that’sit, Igiveuponlove!”, Mutta sinä olet omana itsenäsi.Youmaywanttotakeabreakfromloveforalittlewhile,butyoudenyyourselfalifetimeofhappinessbyclosingthedooronlove.

BlamingYourself

Alotofpeopleblamethemselvesfortheirlovelivesgoingawry.Maybeit ’ SME, theythink.MaybeI ’ mjustnotlovable.,MaybeI’msoannoying,ormyinterestsaresouncommon,thatIwillneverfindsomeonewhocanbetrulycompatiblewithme.Mutta se on vain yksi asia.

Thereissomeoneoutthereforeachofusifonlywecankeepthefaith,bepatient,andbediligentinoursearchandnotcompromiseourvalues.Becauselet’sfaceit,ifyoucompromiseyourvalues,youcannevertrulybehappyanyway.

Everyoneisvaluable,andeveryoneisworthyoflove.It’simportanttorememberthatbecauseifwebelievewearenotvaluable,thenwestartactinglikewearenotvaluable,andthenitbecomesaself-fullingprophecy.Whowantstospendtimedevelopingarelationshipwithacurmudgeon?,Thehappieryouarewithyourlifeandyourself,themorelikelysomeoneworthywillcomealongwhowantstosharethosehappyexperienceswithyou.

Youmaywanttomakealistofallofthethingsthataregoodaboutyourselfthatyoucouldalsooffertoanotherperson.Youcanalsomakealistofallofthevaluesyouarelookingforinapartner,attheveryleastasaremindernottocompromiseonthosevalues.Youmayalsowanttoconsiderseekingcounselingtohelpyouovercomepessimisticthinkingsothatyoucanbethebestpossibleversionofyourselfthatyoucanbe.,

vakavasti…StopLooking

Itmaysoundlikeacliché,mutta’sthetruth:youtrulydofindtruelovewhenyoustoplookingforit.Kun tapasit hänet, ihmiset eivät välitä sinusta.Ifyouinvolveyourselfinanewhobby,takeanewclass,orimmerseyourselfinanewsocialcircle,youaretakingcareofyourself,tendingtoyourownneeds,andyouareshowingtheworldthatyoudon’tneedamatetofeelwhole.

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Ifamatecomesalongthat’sperfectforyou,thenthat’sgreat,butifnot,thenyou’reembracingthesinglelifeandshowingtheworldthatyou’redoingjustfineonyourown.,Andit’snotlikeyou’llbetryingtoproveanythingtoanyone-you’llhonestlybehavingfunwithnewpeopleandlearningnewthings.Soyoutrulyareoccupiedandfillingyourlifeupwithlovelythingssothatwhentherightpartnercomesalong,you’llhaveplentyofgoodthingstosharewiththem.

Somethingelseimportanttorememberisthatthingsoftendonotturnoutthewayweexpectthemto.Wemaydatesomeoneandhavetheromancefizzleout,onlyforthatpersontoturnintooneofthebestfriendswe’veeverhad.Orwemayrealizethattheperfectpartnerwe’vebeenlookingforthisentiretimewasourbestfriendindisguise.,

KillTheTimeline

Manyofussetgoalsforourselves,likewehavetobemarriedby25,haveallofourchildrenby30,andbesettledinourcareersbythetimewe’re35.Butthetruthofthematteris,peoplearedoingthesethingslaterandlaterinlife,jahe’rehappierforit.

Morewomenaresettinguptheircareersbeforetheysettledown,leadingtohavingtheirfirstchildrenwellintotheirthirtiesandevenintotheirforties.Andyoucangetmarriedwhenever.It’snotarace,andthingsaren’tliketheyusedtobe.,Societyhasbecomemoreacceptingofcouplesmarryingaftertheyhavechildren,andyourbosswillprobablyloveyoufordevotingmoreofyourchildbearingyearstodevelopinghisbusiness.

Butseriously,don ’ trushthings.Rushingthingscanlandyouinarelationshipthatmayseem”goodenough”atfirstbutturnsouttobeanightmareintheend.Pidä huolta jostain ruoasta, ei vain ”hyvyydestä”.”Itmaytakelongertoobtain,butyou’llbetentimeshappierandproudofyourselfforwaitingandfornotcompromisingyourvalues.Itsurebeatsrealizingfiveyearsfromnowthatyou’resaddledwithtwokidsanddependentonahusbandwhodoesn’tloveyouasmuchasyoumaylovehim.,

Thelasthingyouwanthing Thodoishavetostaytogether”forthekids.”Pidä varasi, kun joku antaa sinulle.Heorshe on tuolla.

LearnToEnjoyTheRide

Onethingaboutsearchingforanewmateisthatit’sneverawasteoftime.Attheveryleast,youcancollectstoriestoturnintoanecdoteslateron.Andwhodoesn’tloveagooddatingnightmarestory?Varma,itmaybeterribleatthemoment(howmanytimescanaguybringuphismotherinonenight?),butifitgivesyousomethingtolaughatlateron,thenitmadeeverythingworthit.

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Onamoreseriousnote,ifwegooutwithsomeonenew,andtheyrejectus,thenwecanatleastgainexperienceandstrengthfromtheencounterthatwecanthenbringtoanothernewrelationship.Plus,youcancongratulateyourselfforbeingbraveenoughtotakethatfirststepingoingoutandtryingsomethingnew.Itcanbescaryandintimidatingtomeetnewpeople,butgettingyourselfoutthereishalfthebattle.- Mitä?Aika on koittanut.,

’reNeverAlone

Youknowhowyou’refeelingrightnowlikethere’snooneouttherethat’srightforyou,andthereneverwillbe?Arvaat, että sinun on parasta ajatella jotain.Maybeshejustgotjiltedbyyetanotherlover,andshe’sthinkingofwashingherhandsofthewholedatingbusiness.Mutta se on totta, joten en halua sinua.

Heck,itdoesn ’ tevenhavetobeyourfuturelove.Therearethousandsofpeople,atanygivenmoment,whoarecopingwithabreakupanddecidingwhetherornottogiveuploveforever.,Sogoahead,haveanotherhelping(orpint)ofyourfavoriteicecream,cryoveryourfavoriteromanticcomedy,throwbackanotherpintatthepub,dowhateveryouneedtodotofeelbetteratthemomentandrevelinthefactthatyouaremostdefinitelynotalone.

SecondThoughts

Thisisgoingtobesad,buthey,youneedtoknoweveryaspectofadecisionbeforeyoumakeit,andthisone’simportant.Saat päättää, kun olet nuori, että olet tehnyt sen.Se siitä.Sinä tulet tänne, etkä voi olla viisaampi.Butthenthemonthsandyearsgobyand,beforeyouknowit,youmaybepastyourchild-bearingyearsandintoademographicthatfindsitmuchhardertomeetsomeonenew.,

Granted,therewillalwaysbethefailedrelationshiporthespousewhopassedawaythatmakesinglesavailableineverydemographic.Butitbecomesalothardertofindsomeonewhoisn’tmarried,settleddownwithchildren,orhavingdifficultylettinggoofthebaggagefrompastrelationshipssothatheorshecanmoveonwithsomeonenew.

Thisisnottosaythatyouhavetosettleforanyonewhocomesalongsimply,soyoudon’tendupoldandalone.,Butthisistosaythatbytakingyourselfoutofthedatingpoolforawhile,monthscanbecomeyearsfasterthanyouthink,andwhenyou’reolder,youmayfindyourselfgenuinelyregrettingthedecisionyoumadewhenyouwereyounger-andthenit’stoolatetodoanythingaboutit.

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Morethananything,givinguponlovecanjustleadtoyourbecominglonely,andwhyletallofyourexeswinthatbattle?Youshouldfightforyourhappinessbecausedammit,youdeserveit-especiallyafterkissingsomanytoads.Statisticssaythatyouwillfindthatprinceeventually,evenifyouhavetokissafewmoretoadsfirst.,

people people,andinavarietyofways.Mostofushavefriendsandfamilytoturnto,butwealsoneedtheemotionalconnectionthatcomeswithromanticloveaswell.Itmaynothappenrightawayasitdoesinthemovies,butit’ssomuchbetterwhenitdoesn’t.Becausethat’swhenyoufindtruequality.